A guest post by Keli Lenfield
Over the years, women and men have come face to face with the battle of body shapes. It is hard to believe that there was a time whereby women were celebrated for their natural God-given bodies – thin has not always been in.
The transformations of what women want their bodies to look like or resemble has become a reflection of today’s societal expectations and prejudices. What happened to the days when the ideal woman was voluptuous? When everybody embraced their curves and beauty was more than just skin deep? Are we not good enough? And if so, why not ? And for whom?
If it’s to attract the eye of your preferred lover – do they literally dictate or do you think that is what they want? It was so much easier when the lips and dimples of ‘full figured’ women were the objects of every man’s desire. Enough with the semantics, body types have generally revolutionized overtime and with the millenials now in full force and running the show, we are actually seeing a focus on what do you do? And how do you contribute? … More than what size are you and what are you wearing?
Historical body shapes
The Renaissance: In this era, the ideal woman was more curvy and voluptuous.
The Victorian Era: During this time, women were highly body conscious. Being sexy meant having the smallest waistline.
The roaring 20’s: This was the period where Coco Chanel started developing various fashion trends. Women in this time aimed to hide their curves. Some of them would even bind their chests with strips of clothing so as to achieve a boyish look.
The 30’s and 40’s: Fashion accented the arms and legs so women lifted weights to build different fashion tones.
The 60’s and beyond: Most women became obsessed with being thin.
It is sad how plastic and artificial life has become something of pride in the current world. It gets harder and harder to find anything real (even “reality TV” is scripted)! Nowadays, most women opt for plastic surgery, implants and Botox to achieve the kind of look they want. No one is disputing it but you should also ensure you are not at any risk health wise before we partake of the plastic surgery quilting process. Surely you would prefer that your actions did not come back to eternally haunt you.
The experts matter (in their own right) but there is still much you can do to achieve the kind of body you want on your own – allow me to explain.
Coined body shapes
Your body shape is simply a combination of your natural birthright build with your muscle and fat distribution.
The hourglass body shape: This body type is curvy in all the ‘right’ places: bust and booty. It is basically the most common proportion of what is womanly attractive.
The circle body shape: It is most commonly called ‘the apple’. Women with this body shape have smaller shoulders and hips, slender legs and a slim booty. Though the fat has to accumulate somewhere…normally around the stomach, thus creating a larger waist in comparison with the rest of your body which by all accounts puts you at greater risk for heart disease (I am not a physician, so please go and ask yours if you need clarification as this can also be part of your genetic makeup and lifestyle).
Triangle body shape: It is a shapely bottom with a tinier waist. This is a classic feminine shape. Studies show that it is most likely to have increased fertility from the estrogen that’s putting more weight on the hips with this body weight.
The body shape is all about proportion and fashion is about accentuating these proportions. Before accessorizing, your number one rule should be being comfortable in your own skin. Do not go overboard but always wear clothes that complement your shape.
Renowned stylists like Rachel Zoe, Petra Flannery, Leslie Fremar and Joseph Cassel among others advocate for being organized hoarders and dressing to suit you. They are known to give the best dressing advice on their websites. Listening to them is not such a bad thing. No one lives in your skin-only you- therefore, you should decide what is perfect in your own eyes. I echo the words of Steve Maraboli in ‘Unapologetically You’, “There is nothing rarer, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
Regardless of who you are or what you look like, love and accept yourself first. Embrace what you have been given. Be the Difference to make a Difference.
More worthy content and my story can read in my book “Everyone is a Supermodel. Secrets for any career based on my modelling experience”. Check it out!