Tracy Secombe was Miss Australia 1997, and you would think that title would come with the beauty queen standard heard at every pageant: “My confidence is the key to my success.” Doubt me? Flip on Miss Universe and you are bound to hear one contestant say it’s the secret to her success and beauty. They won’t talk about the lengths they go to in attaining their physical beauty.
Ms. Secombe’s words of wisdom come as a result of her open confessions of anorexia in her teen years…
“If you don’t love your body now, you never will!”
I wholeheartedly agree, and I will admit, like every twentysomething girl, this is an area I am seriously working on. What about you, readers?
“Have you ever stopped to notice what you say to yourself about your body? Do you ever catch yourself looking at someone with a great body and wishing you had thighs like them?” Secombe asks. Yes.
She notes, would you tell your friend some of the horrible things you tell yourself? Probably not.
“To put this into perspective imagine that your body is your friend. Choose your bestie – or one of them if you have many. What is his/her name? OK – now pretend you are saying to your bestie the things that you say to your body: ‘Hey Kate, look at her body – she looks amazing! I wish you had thighs like that!'” Secombe says.
“Now, you may be close, but even a bestie is not going to be happy with a comment like that. The irony of us talking ourselves down all the time, is that we become what we think about all day long. We don’t become what we want, because our thought around this is ‘I want it’ – so in this case we create wanting it. We actually create what we say we are.”
“This is why there is so much power in the words, ‘I am,'” says Secombe.
As Secombe puts it, you can’t change to what you want to become unless you are happy with what you currently look like.
“Have you ever said to yourself, ‘I am fat’ or ‘I have a flabby tummy?’ These words are creative.”
“Changing your body into one that you love will ultimately happen as a results of the actions you take – eating well and exercising. However, what we do is related to how we feel. Being motivated to exercise is proportional to how good you feel. And how good you feel is a direct result of what you are thinking.”
Flip it around, she advises. Notice and appreciate what is amazing about yourself before attacking what you dislike.
“So tip the balance from thinking negatively about your body most of the time, to loving your body most of the time. Look in the mirror and be grateful for the body you have. If you find this difficult to begin with when it comes to some parts of your body, then ignore those bits and start with your best assets! You will feel better, and then you will act better, and your body will transform into the body you want through loving it and treating it with the respect it deserves.”
The lesson is, don’t act like the Mean Girls characters on yourself. Put down the self hatred Burn Book! Your sanity and self esteem are worth so much more.
Tracy Secombe is a Thinking into Results facilitator who shows organisations and individuals how to be, do and have what they want in life. Tracy delivers the program developed by Bob Proctor and Sandy Gallagher through live events, videos and webinars.
As a physiotherapist, former Miss Australia 1997 and owner of three businesses, Tracy brings the experience of over 20 years of her own success to her clients.